It's never fun when someone breaks up with you. When you are
dumped by someone you aren't dating, it's even worse.
I was out
with a wonderful guy the other night. He is fun, intelligent, and handsome-the
whole package. We'd gone out a couple of times, but we certainly weren't
dating. I had no expectations about the future, but I was really enjoying the
chance to get to know him.
After dinner, out of nowhere, he gave me the break-up
speech. "I've kinda been dating this girl on and off, and we are back on now...
I'm not really ready for a relationship... I'm so busy with work right now..."
I don't remember his exact words, but the speech was pretty standard-- we've
all heard it, we've all delivered it, and we all know it is simply a nice way of
saying, "Never call me again."
When he
finished talking, I gave him the necessary assurances and thanked him for a
nice evening. It was an awkward situation, and I did my best to make him feel
better. The whole thing made me feel even worse.
Although we
weren't a couple (and I had no expectation we would be), I still felt completely
rejected. Why didn't he want to be with me? Did this other girl really exist,
or was it just an excuse to avoid me in the future? Most importantly, what did
I do to make him feel the need to give me "the speech?" He obviously felt some
type of pressure from me, which was completely unintended on my part.
Now,
days later, my ego is still shot and I feel like an ass. I'm officially
crawling in a hole and avoiding men forever.
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