It's official. Both of my kids are now in school! I think my son grew about two feet taller over the summer in preparation for his
journey into elementary school. My daughter starting preparing herself for
preschool last year by going into her brother’s classroom and making herself at
home with the older kids. Amazingly enough the transition for both of them has
been fairly easy. So easy that one would think I bribed them to go and be happy
at school by promising bottomless cups of chocolate milk when they got home.
Believe me, the thought did cross my mind in case that kind of ammunition
deemed necessary. Sorry, Nestle. We’re still using the same amount of Quik for
now.
The Razor scooter, a child's best friend for many years! They go
zipping up and down sidewalks, streets, and parking lots looking for
places just steep enough for a sweet jump or a fast and smooth ride.
Days are spent cruising around the neighborhood picking up friends
along the way who are desperate to try that one last trick that they
were unable to land the night before. Dinner is ready and all the moms
and dads are calling for the return of their kids before the street
lights come on. There will always be tomorrow.
As a child I spent most of my youth jumping bikes off of ramps made of
plywood and bricks, riding my skateboard off of curbs, steps, and
sometimes just straight into the creek. A Razor scooter was not
something we had growing up in the 1970's, at least not in my
neighborhood. We had Big Wheels, dirt bikes, and skateboards.
The next dad to come in for an interview is Jeremy Biser. Jeremy and I have something in common besides the fact that we are both stay-at-home dads; we both interview other dads, too! Two weeks ago I was featured in his Spotlight on Dads series for his Discovering Dad site. Last March we both met in the Dads Community on cre8Buzz.com , a new social networking site for bloggers, writers, photographers, entrepreneurs, sports enthusiasts, and many others. Here he is to tell you more about his life as a dad.
Taking on the commitment of an at-home dad is a
big decision. What factors contributed to your family’s decision?
The simple answer is that my wife, Lori, had a job
with more flexibility. When she got pregnant, we were both District Managers
working for incredible retail companies. Both of us made good money, and we
both loved our jobs. We both had good benefits, although hers was slightly
better with regard to paid leave and flex time. We didn't make a final decision
until a few months before our son Ty was born.
At the time, I had an opportunity to start a
part-time business and work mostly from home. It seemed logical to follow that
path - we could continue to have two incomes plus one of us at home with Ty. It
also made things easier and more flexible with getting my teenage daughter Chani
(from my first marriage, and she lives several states away from us). It was a
very logical progression, although I admit that I never thought I would be in
this role.
I severely underestimated the difficulty of being a
stay-at-home parent - it is the hardest yet most rewarding job that I've ever
had in my life.
How has the family adjusted to your new role?
The kids love it! Lori is definitely the nurturer,
while I’m the playmate and disciplinarian. I enjoy roughhousing with the kids
and doing fun activities with them throughout the day. We go for walks and to
the park to break things up, but I also teach them to play independently and to
be helpful in getting things done around the house.
When Lori isn’t traveling overnight for work, we
always try to eat dinner together as a family too. I think this time together
helps to keep us all connected. I have a lot of meetings and work commitments
at night after dinner, so it can be a challenge to find time for
everything.
We have routines, in which the kids get time with
both me and Lori, and we have found a way to make things work for
us.
What do you think is your best quality for your
job as the primary caregiver to your children?
Here I am on the pristine grounds of Augusta National Golf Course fumbling with my camera that just a few minutes earlier was auto focusing without a problem. I went through all of the menus that had anything to do with the auto focus and everything was set correctly. My decision to not carry my backup camera or an extra lens so my load would be lighter was starting to sound like the dumbest decision I’ve had in a very long time. It was a chance I was willing to take to not have to travel with stuff that I was 99.99% sure I wouldn’t need and then have to lug it around for eight hours on a golf course. Nikons are reliable! How could this happen?
Holy Golf-Lover's Dream! Last week I was one of the game's
luckiest spectators as I stepped foot onto the hallowed grounds of Augusta
National - the most beautiful course in the world.
Ten years ago my Dad and two Uncles went with my Grandpa
when one of my Uncle's won the lottery for a chance to purchase four Masters
practice round tickets. In 2005, my Grandpa, the one responsible for the
Grayson boys' love of golf, passed away peacefully in his home just a few yards
away from the 16th green where I practiced many putts as a child.
Last year my Uncle won the ticket lottery again and I was asked by them to
complete the foursome in my Grandpa's honor. A new chapter in my life has
begun.
Last week was Spring Break here in Austin, TX. For me that
usually meant working more shifts to make extra cash from the South by
Southwest festival people who flooded the streets of downtown Austin and the
surrounding clubs and restaurants. One year when I was much younger, unmarried
and without kids, some friends and I made the rite of passage trip to South
Padre Island. Those days, however, are just a distant memory now that we have
two children and many more responsibilities.
Then came Spring Break 2008! As most of you probably know,
we here at Quirkee Media and our friends from Quack!Media co-hosted a party on 6th Street last
Thursday (Image Gallery ). The day before is when my kids went to my parents' house for the
weekend. This was the first time ever that we have both been away from
our kids at the same time. I had visions of them waking up in the middle of the night screaming,
"Mama! Daddy!" Of course, that never happened. My parents informed us that they
slept all through the nights without any trouble.
Pat Glennon is annoyingly boring. He really is! He writes a blog called Annoyingly Boring? and honestly, he's quite the opposite. Pat is another dad I met online through DadStaysHome.com and he is also wildly popular on the new cre8Buzz site with his page here. He comes from a large family and I don't mean tall (he is 6' 5", though) but I mean he has five brothers and one sister. Pat is a native of Boston and looks forward to his swim in the harbor every New Year's Day - because he's crazy like that. He had a lot to say when he came into the Daddyshack and none of it was annoyingly boring.
Remember when the world communicated only in person or on the telephone? Our facial expressions and voices relayed our feelings without any worry of miscommunication. If you were angry or making a joke it would be obvious by the tone of your voice or the laughter that would follow.
Then along came email, online forums, and chat boxes. All of the sudden people didn't have to really talk to each other using their voices. Forums and chat boxes proved to be useful tools to have conversations with multiple people at once. Sending emails is a major way of communicating in many workplaces or with friends and relatives. All of the sudden everybody became so impersonal.
Discovering funny and interesting dads for this interview series has become somewhat of an addiction. I belong to quite a few networking sites and forums and continue to stumble upon some really great candidates to interrogate here in the Daddyshack.
Joe Schatz is one of the dads I met on a new site, cre8Buzz.com, and he has created quite a following of readers on his website, joeprah.com . Joe's site even caught the attention of Kathleen Deveny of Newsweek who wrote this article about throwing away your kid's artwork and mentioned his blog post from earlier this year on the same subject. When you get a chance you should stop by his blog and read some of the funny stuff he writes on a daily basis. For now, sit back with some hot coffee or a tasty beverage and read more about Joe as he takes his turn in the Daddyshack.
On New Year's Eve nine years ago my wife and I were married.
Not long after that my mother-in-law emailed us a comparison of our
astrological signs showing how we are a great match. I'm not the kind of person
that reads their horoscope every day, but I know what the stars say about
Virgos and they pretty much dead-on describe my personality and traits. I could
say the same for my wife, a Capricorn, and apparently the stars say we work
well together. When she emailed this comparison I immediately printed it out
and put it on the refrigerator next to our wedding photo where it remains to
this day.
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